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Guidance Counselor - Mrs. Gwen Finley

Parenting Resources

Second Quarter Parenting Resources:

Excerpts of Yardsticks by Chip Wood, as reviewed by teachers Sarah Nogee, Lea Fennessy, and Stacia Koenig.

Parents of children at all ages often question what to expect at each level of their children’s growth and development. If your child is a kindergartner or first grader, here are some tips taken from the resources above to consider.

  • Children’s growth and development follow some identifiable patterns.
  • Even though there are general patterns, no two children are the same which means that while children may go through stages in the same order, they will go through them at their own rate.
  • Development and learning do not proceed at the same rate. A child may be ahead in learning but behind in physical and social growth or ahead in music or mechanical ability while being more average in traditional school subjects.
  • Growth is uneven. Learning can involve spurts ahead followed by times of skill consolidation.

“Each child is a gift, each child is a surprise.”

Characteristics of Kindergartners

Physical

  • Gross motor control improving
  • Need a good deal of physical activity/free play outside is necessary
  • Reversals of letters and numbers are at their peak and make reading and writing difficult

Social:

  • Consistent rules and discipline are necessary
  • Struggling to learn to express empathy; can have difficulty sharing their own ball or space but then at times if a classmate across the room is crying, a crowd of caring fives may gather

Language:

  • Asks permission often; “Teacher can I . . .?”

Learning:

  • Learns best through play and own action
  • Do not think like adults; children must do one thing at a time; keep it clear and simple

If you would like to read more about developmental traits of Kindergarten or first grade students, please contact me to borrow the book Yardsticks by Chip Wood or ask your child’s teacher.

Characteristics of 1st Graders

Physical:

  • Allow a “busy” level of activity and noise during learning
  • Help students slow down; being in a hurry to finish is common

Social:

  • Wants to be first
  • Tremendous capacity for enjoyment; likes surprises, treats
  • Extreme behavior needs to be understood but not excessively tolerated; tantrums, teasing, bossing, complaining, tattling are ways sixes try out relationships/authority
  • Can be competitive; take the competitive edge off when using games to learn

Language:

  • Likes to explain things

Learning:

  • Enjoy the process almost more than the finished project
  • Watch for their delight in showing what they can do in academics and class routines

First Quarter Parenting Resources:

Parenting with Love and Logic by Foster Cline & Jim Fay

Parent Tips from Love & Logic Magic When Kids Leave You Speechless by Charles Fay

  1. Children feel better about themselves when they have firm yet loving limits, some age-appropriate chores to do at home, and have to struggle and not be rescued when they face consequences.
  2. When children try to argue with you, "go brain dead" and repeat "I love you too much to argue."
  3. Emphasize what you will do in a time-limited way. For example," You need to pick up your toys now. If some are left out, I will pick them up and put them in my closet for today. That way no one will trip on them." Use a businesslike voice so you are not letting the child gain control by seeing you upset.

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